Is Chivalry Sexist?

Chivalry. We often hear it's dead or dying, and I have been considering wether or not it is bad thing? I consider myself a feminist. I believe that men and women should be equal, all the time. So does that make a man holding a door, pulling out a chair, or giving up his seat for a woman against my beliefs? Not at all.

I feel that we were all created equal, and should be treated as such, but I realize that men and women are different. When you look at a male or female, there are obvious differences,physically, mentally, emotionally, and I recognize that. But that does not mean, that my brain or abilities are any less than a guy.
I believe women deserve equal pay in the work force, equal recognition in government, and the opportunities to do whatever we choose without gender coming in to question, I also believe that Chivalry has a place in society.

Chivalry by definition is: The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. There aren't too many mid-evil Knights in Philly, but unfortunately the principals of "courtesy, honor and gallantry towards women" are almost as difficult to find. Although Chivalry is nearly extinct in my generation, I believe it's a courtesy that is important.

I believe that men and women can be equal, while still showing manors and appreciation towards the other sex. Opening a door for a girl, is a nice way of showing her, that you appreciate her. It sounds sexist right? Maybe it is. We need to consider then, if women wearing heels and make-up supports sexual oppression, because they choose to dress differently than a male, simply because of their gender.

When a man acts this way towards a woman he is not, diminishing her importance. rather, he is displaying his appreciation for her. I don't think that these manors should be a one way street. Females in a relationship should also show respect for there partner by treating them courteously. As long as both member of a relationship act accordingly, I do not believe Chivalry promotes sexism.

Chivalry isn't necessary, but it is nice. I can open a door for myself, pull out my own chair and what not, but I expect such treatment from any man I date. Is that contradictory to all my other beliefs?

Is it sexist, or respect?


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